Stepping Stones and Boulders
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In church last weekend the pastor was talking about stepping stones and boulders. I will provide you the gist of the message. Baby Christians need stepping stones. If you know a baby Christian you should be their stepping stones with your knowledge and mannerisms. If you, (being a baby Christian), have people in your life that are not stepping stones for your developments in Christ, they are a boulder. He gave the wonderful example of a drug abuser coming clean and hanging out with two types of people. The new friends, that support his good habits and go to church, and the old friends that taunt him about not using and drag him down. This case is clear cut as to which are the boulders and which group are the all-so-helpful stepping stones.
My case is not so clear cut. In my case, I am a stepping stone for her and she is a boulder for me. It has been this way for years. She is not a baby Christian, and knows the right way. At what point do I pull away the stepping stones she is treading on? If I can use this analogy, it is like she is keeping me from climbing my own stepping stones. Don't get me wrong. I do not want her to falter, but I am tired of not being able increase my personal walk due to maintaining hers. I do understand that some people need more stones than others do. What about the person that needs consistent stones? The person that takes away from your other friends and commitments you have made? So, I feel stuck between a rock and a hard place (ha,ha). Do you have any suggestions or advice?
I hope I have made sense. And, I want to throw this out to all of you as well. Who is a boulder in your life? Who is helping you lay your stepping stones and are you doing the same for them?
Just some stuff to chew on this Thursday afternoon. I am particularly stressed to the upcoming wedding for my sister on Sunday, so I must thank the blogger for taking my mind of that problem for a little while. Hope you all have a good night and enjoy tomorrow and the long weekend!
In church last weekend the pastor was talking about stepping stones and boulders. I will provide you the gist of the message. Baby Christians need stepping stones. If you know a baby Christian you should be their stepping stones with your knowledge and mannerisms. If you, (being a baby Christian), have people in your life that are not stepping stones for your developments in Christ, they are a boulder. He gave the wonderful example of a drug abuser coming clean and hanging out with two types of people. The new friends, that support his good habits and go to church, and the old friends that taunt him about not using and drag him down. This case is clear cut as to which are the boulders and which group are the all-so-helpful stepping stones.
My case is not so clear cut. In my case, I am a stepping stone for her and she is a boulder for me. It has been this way for years. She is not a baby Christian, and knows the right way. At what point do I pull away the stepping stones she is treading on? If I can use this analogy, it is like she is keeping me from climbing my own stepping stones. Don't get me wrong. I do not want her to falter, but I am tired of not being able increase my personal walk due to maintaining hers. I do understand that some people need more stones than others do. What about the person that needs consistent stones? The person that takes away from your other friends and commitments you have made? So, I feel stuck between a rock and a hard place (ha,ha). Do you have any suggestions or advice?
I hope I have made sense. And, I want to throw this out to all of you as well. Who is a boulder in your life? Who is helping you lay your stepping stones and are you doing the same for them?
Just some stuff to chew on this Thursday afternoon. I am particularly stressed to the upcoming wedding for my sister on Sunday, so I must thank the blogger for taking my mind of that problem for a little while. Hope you all have a good night and enjoy tomorrow and the long weekend!
posted by Nic at 12:08 PM
2 Comments:
It is okay to be someone's stepping stone as long as you are not a baby christian yourself. Also if you are not the personality type that does well with giving constant support then it is not a good idea to support someone who needs that type of person. Also it can hinder your own personal growth in the lord which is always a bad thing.
It's about seasons. Sometimes seasons are long, sometimes they are brief moments. I've found that times when I thought I was supporting someone else, God was really trying to teach me a lesson. Sure, I was "supportive" but in reality, the situation was largely for me to learn. The best thing to do is seek God's timing on it... what is His will in the situation. He may ask you to stay long past what you think you should, but He has his reasons. Or, it could be that He is telling you to move on. And remember that your relationship with Him should be first, not trying to get someone else closer to Him. If that's the case, it's not in line with what God has set down for us.
There's my two cents... do with it as you will.
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